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Date Diaries: Montreal
Montreal is a beautiful city that I love. I’ve only been there a handful of times, but each time, I’ve fallen in love all over again with the bilingualism, the cultural flair, the low rents compared...
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How to Take Yourself on a Date
I’m an introvert in a long-distance relationship, and I work from home. This all means that I spend a lot of time alone. For me, that doesn’t just mean sitting around at home: sometimes it means...
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Review: Bodywand Midnight Plug-In Massager
Astute readers will recall that the quest for a rumbly, reliable, petite wand vibrator has occupied a lot of my sex toy testing time over the past year. Seeking a travel-friendly wand capable of...
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2 Psychological Tricks For Conquering Hard Feelings in Polyamory
I’m a psychology nerd. I minored in psych at university, and have seen various therapists over the course of my life to help pick apart my tangled psyche. After all this exploration, two of my favorite...
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Protocol Diaries: Love Letters
“Dear Matt: It’s hard to know what to write to you in a love letter because we are already so forthcoming about our feelings. A letter of this genre should be juicy, revealing, exciting, and you...
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5 Great Reasons to Hire an Escort
I’ve learned a ton from my friends who are Toronto escorts about the power and magic of sex work. Contrary to shitty popular opinions about it being a seedy profession for the desperate and destitute,...
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Monthly Faves: Cuisine & Cosmetics
It was a good month in my sex life but I don’t have too much new stuff to report vis-à-vis sex toys, fantasies, or femme stuff, so… in lieu of a typical Monthly Faves, here’s a straight-up list of...
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Review: We-Vibe Moxie
Sex toy companies have been trying to make a decent “panty vibe” seemingly since the dawn of time. I don’t know why so many toymakers seem to think that a wearable, Bluetooth-controllable vibrator is...
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5 Summertime Faves
Summer is upon us! Accordingly, I’m feeling extra grateful for some of the items that get me through the hottest season every year. Here are a few of them… Revlon balm stain in “Sweetheart” This pink...
View Article5 Frank Sinatra Songs That Are Definitely About Kink
I’ve Got You Under My Skin The addictive, all-consuming qualities of love often described in these Tin Pan Alley-era love songs remind me so much of my kinky relationships. Modern-day dating is so...
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How They Fuck Me
Gender is a sex toy. That’s not all it is, but it can be that. I remember the first person I dated telling me they’d always been gender-weird and sort of wished they’d been born a boy. I remember...
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How to Look Like a Sex Doll
Being a sex doll is a recurrent fantasy for me. It’s hard to say whether I would actually like it – I haven’t tried pretending to be a doll in a scene yet – but it definitely holds some appeal. Being...
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Current Fave Lubes
It’s been a while since I’ve done this, so… here’s some current faves of mine in the lube category! Best general-purpose lube: Sutil Rich (available at SheVibe and Come As You Are) This water-based...
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Every Time I Wanted to Give Up On Love
2004. A girl I sort of know is sprawled out on the grass next to me in a park on a sunny afternoon. We’re barely friends, but we’re whiling the day away by playing a game together anyway. The game is...
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The True Meaning of Friendship (with Benefits)
I’ve been fucking my friend with benefits for over two years and we’ve never taken a selfie together. If this doesn’t seem that strange to you, I should explain: I take selfies with almost everybody...
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Monthly Faves: Weddings & Wisecracks
Sex toys • An ice cube barely counts as a sex toy, but nonetheless: temperatures soared in Toronto this month and I enjoyed trying some temperature play with my partner. While this activity is often...
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5 Ways Hollow Strap-Ons Can Transform Your Sex Life
When the subject of my past in sex toy retail comes up in conversation, one question I’m often asked is, “What products did you sell the most of?” Beginner vibrators, anal douches, and We-Vibes all...
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So… I’m Demisexual!
“A demisexual person is someone who does not experience sexual attraction to another person unless or until they have formed an emotional connection with that person. It’s more commonly seen in, but...
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11 Ideas for D/s Writing Assignments
I’m a writer, an overachiever, and a submissive, so of course I love when my dominant gives me writing assignments. They feel like a task at which I can tangibly succeed – plus, unlike with many other...
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10 Things I Wish I’d Known About Pegging
The sex act known as pegging is most often written about, in my experience, by two groups of people: vanilla straight people advising other vanilla straight people on how to do it, and, uh, Dan...
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