5 Useful Insights on Chronic Pain and BDSM
I’ve been living with chronic joint pain for about 4 years now – so, roughly as long as I’ve identified as kinky. I wonder often if there’s a correlation there… Different doctors in different areas of...
View ArticleMonthly Faves: Gush, Good Guys, & Gold Glitter
April was a bit of a tumultuous month – I got my PayPal account shut down for being a sex writer and had to reshuffle a bunch of career stuff as a result – but I think I managed to salvage it, for the...
View ArticleFreelance Friday: Ruination & Regret
Q. Has there ever been a time/incident where your work “ruined” masturbation or other specific sex things for you (temporarily)? A. This is, unfortunately, a frequent occurrence for sex toy reviewers....
View ArticleWhy Sex Skills Are More Important Than “Sex Moves”
Sex guides that focus on particular “moves” have entertained me for years. I read them like they’re porn, and in a way, they are. “Swirl your tongue in circles around the clit.” “Stroke the G-spot...
View Article10 Tips For Incredible Kisses
You know, for the amount of kissing I do, I really haven’t written very much about it here! It’s often taken as self-explanatory, which I don’t think is strictly fair. All of us had to learn to kiss,...
View ArticleSex With an Ex: Good Idea, or Worst Idea?
I’ve never had sex with an ex. This experience seems to be common, and being as sentimental and stubborn as I am, it seems like something I would do – but I never really have. Apart from one...
View Article10 Ways Sex & Hookup Websites Can Be Safer For Women
For as much as I talk about dating sites and the hours of amusement they’ve brought me, I don’t actually think they’re that great. They’re too often full of creeps and trolls, seeking to offend and...
View ArticleReview: Le Stelle Perks EX-C
I’m always on board with new luxury sex toy companies popping up to fill the shoes of Lelo and Jimmyjane, now that those brands have well and truly jumped the shark. So I was excited when Le Stelle...
View Article20 Local Crushes Who Make Me Blush
1. The charmingly bedraggled server at the vegan café. He forever looks like he just rolled out of bed, hung over, the morning after modeling in a Calvin Klein underwear shoot, threw some rumpled...
View ArticleWinsome in White: Wedding Dress Fetish
A strapless white Betsey Johnson dress that makes me shriek When I attended a cakesitting party, I theorized that perhaps the spark of lust some people feel from destroying a cake materializes because...
View ArticleMy Top 10 Favorite Songs About Marriage
The closest thing I have to a photo of me in a wedding dress. I’m a romantic sap and I don’t care who knows it. I cry at Hallmark cards, I sob whenever I watch the episode of The Office where Jim and...
View ArticleWe’re Not Blowjob Machines, Bro
This is my “just had an unsatisfactory hookup” face Let’s do some sex math, shall we? Number of male sexual partners I’ve given oral sex to: 23 Number of male sexual partners I’ve given an orgasm via...
View ArticleReview: Lelo Loki
Photos by Matt – thank you, Matt! Being a service sub, I relish opportunities to shower my dominant in gifts – but being a freelance writer, I don’t always have the financial resources to make this...
View Article5 Fun Things to Do With a Prostate Massager
For many years I dated people who had a prostate but had no desire to touch it or have partners touch it. There’s nothing wrong with that – it’s their butt and they can do with it as they please! –...
View ArticleMonthly Faves: Cocksucking & Caretaking
May was a nice month! Here are some of the sexy things I’ve been enjoying lately… Sex toys • We-Vibe sent me their new product, the Moxie, a panty vibe that attaches to your underwear with a magnetic...
View ArticleIntimate Intercourse: Dating a Sex Writer (Part 1)
Hello! Intimate Intercourse is a series where I interview my boyfriend/Sir/daddy, who goes by Super Sleepy Dude, about various topics related to sex and kink. Previously we’ve talked about phone...
View ArticleIntimate Intercourse: Dating a Sex Writer (Part 2)
Hi again! Welcome back to Intimate Intercourse, a series where I interview my boyfriend/Sir/daddy, who goes by Super Sleepy Dude, about various topics related to sex and kink. This week we’re...
View ArticleIntimate Intercourse: Dating a Sex Writer (Part 3)
Hello again! Welcome back to Intimate Intercourse, a series where I interview my boyfriend/Sir/daddy, who goes by Super Sleepy Dude, about various topics related to sex and kink. This week we’re...
View ArticleReview: Rock Candy Suga Daddy 8″
When Rock Candy reached out to me offering me a toy to review, I was immediately entranced by their toys’ aesthetic. They’re all pink or blue, look vaguely like candy, and made to satisfy size queens...
View Article5 Fun Things You Can Do With Used Panties
There are few objects as sexually charged and culturally revered as panties. They can symbolize so many things: femininity or gender transgression, raunch or innocence, private secrets or public...
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