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Behind the Seams: Playground Conference Edition
February 23rd, 2018. I wore this during the daytime on the first day of the Playground Conference. Later, I would change into a much more salacious dress for the opening plenary, but this one was a...
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Monthly Faves: Submission, Scents, & Psychology
What a lovely month in my sex life! My spreadsheet is a-burstin’. Here’s some of what went on in April… Sex toys • The Doxy #3 continues to be a fave. I went on yet another New York jaunt this month...
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8 Strategies For Taking More (Consensual) Pain
Photo of me and Suz by Taylor J Mace They say that if there’s something in your life you don’t like, you can either change the thing itself, or change your attitude about it. That’s an idealistic...
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10 Ways to Love a Writer
1. Read their work. But like, really read it, though. Soak it up. Tell them what you liked about it. Tell them how it made you feel. Marvel at their clever word choices and melodious phrasing. If you...
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A Bespoke Signature Scent From My Love
Photo via Stephen Dirkes I often joke-without-joking that, at 26, I’m not an adult yet and I don’t know when I will be. True, I’ve reached certain milestones I associate with adulthood – living away...
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Behind the Seams: Slutty Seductress + Glamorous Grampa
March 24th, 2018. I wore this to a party my friend Suz threw to celebrate the overhaul and relaunch of her blog. The event description said, “Kinky, queer, fetish wear, glitter, and extra outfits are...
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Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow?
The most romantic story I’ve ever heard is told to me in my aunt’s kitchen during a family party. It’s shortly before the total solar eclipse of summer 2017. An older woman I hardly know – a distant...
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Review: Cowgirl
What kind of person would spend $2,000 on a sex toy? I kept wondering this whenever I would read about the new rideable vibrator from Alicia Sinclair (of b-Vibe and Le Wand fame), the Cowgirl. I just...
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Behind the Seams: Fun, Flirty, & Flu-y
May 4th, 2018. After a long battle with a bad flu, I was soooo ready to feel pretty again. So I asked my Sir to choose my outfit for a jaunt to the Hart House Theatre to see The Artist & The...
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Why Everyone Should Own Lube
There are very few immutable truths when it comes to sex. Here are a few I think are important: No matter how weird you think your sexual tastes are, there are people out there who are into the same...
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How to Prepare For a Spanking
A surprisingly frequent search term people use to find my website is “how to prepare for a spanking.” At first, I found this confusing – what’s to prepare? Just drop trou and you’re good to go! – but...
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Monthly Faves: Leather Leashes & Deft Doctors
Summer has finally sprung in Toronto! I had a lot of sweaty sex this month… which is… good, I guess? Here were some things I loved in May! Sex toys • Did you know that the VixSkin Mustang is a...
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Behind the Seams: Babes & Dates
May 11th, 2018. The “little boy at summer camp” vibez are so real. I wore this out to my fave local diner (which has since CLOSED, boooo) to finish up some dayjob work over bacon and eggs, and then...
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Love Addiction, “The Pisces,” and Me
I’ve never been addicted to a substance. I’ve never been over-reliant on booze or weed or pills. But I have been addicted to romantic fantasies, and let me tell you, the compulsions and withdrawal can...
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Pigtails and the Patriarchy: Where Sex Meets Style
What does it mean to “get dressed up for sex”? This question hits me right at the intersection of my sex-nerdiness and my femme proclivities. It fascinates me. Because, as with so many things...
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Behind the Seams: Babygirls, Boots, & a Boy Shirt
May 16th, 2018. I wore this to go get dinner and drinks with my friend Anais at the Pour Boy, a favorite local haunt. We talked animatedly about boys, girls, kink, and theatre – among other things –...
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This Is The Place
Image via Google Street View “Here it is,” I announce, sweeping my arms wide with sarcastic grandiosity. “The location of my first kiss.” My new boyfriend glances around the elementary school...
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My Favorite Sex Toys For Phone Sex
It’s funny how you can be a sex writer for 6+ years and still have so much to learn about so many areas of sex. It’s part of what drew me to this career in the first place: the sense of sexuality as a...
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Prostate Play & Protocol: Recommending Men’s Sex Toys
I love nerding out about D/s with my boyfriend, and one way we do that is by experimenting with protocols together. I’ve told you before about protocols: recurring action-based rules you can negotiate...
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A Second Date in a Golden Room
Little one: I’m nervous and excited and nervous and excited about tomorrow Sir: You like me so much you’re redundant Little one: It wasn’t redundant, it was exactly the right amount of both things...
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