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Review: Womanizer Premium
If toys like the Womanizer are meant to replicate cunnilingus – which is a subject of some debate in the industry – then I don’t think the technology is quite there yet. However, the luxe Womanizer...
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When Sex Toy Companies Take Credit for Other Companies’ Designs
I feel passionately that plagiarism is indefensible, in the sex toy industry and outside of it. It’s one thing to garner inspiration from someone else’s work, and even to “try on” their style while...
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Monthly Faves: Sapphic Fiction & Clicky Keys
Hope your July has gone well! Here are some of the things I enjoyed most this month… Media • Melissa Broder, of “So Sad Today” fame, has a new novel out called Milk Fed which I loved. It’s about...
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5 Unexpected Ways Music Can Improve Your Sex Life
Music is an important part of sex for many of us. Whether we prefer to set a sultry mood with some rainy-evening piano jazz, summon our inner goddess with a Beyoncé album, or rock out to Nine Inch...
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Behind the Seams: Summer Adventures
June 30, 2021 My beloved and I had plans for a long-distance date, i.e. I go to a bar/restaurant in Toronto and they go to one in New York, and we talk on the phone throughout. I was in a good mood...
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My Most Expensive Sex Toys: Are They Worth It?!
I get a lot of questions from readers that amount to “Is [x sex toy] worth its price tag?” It’s a difficult question, because the answer depends on so many factors. How much are you able to spend on...
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7 Ways I Manage My Energy As a Chronically Ill Freelancer
There are many ways in which I am deeply privileged, and one of them is that I’ve been able to carve out a career for myself as a freelance media-maker working from home – which comes in handy an...
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Review: Funejoy Clitoral Sucking Egg Vibrator
People often tell me they wish they had my job, and I get it – but the truth is, it’s still a job, and a job means work, and work isn’t always fun. Sometimes I pout and groan and mope when I have to...
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Review: Sohimi Rose Queen
Sometimes, when I talk to my younger sex blogger friends about the way things used to be in this industry, I feel like a cranky old man describing his uphill-both-ways trudge from home to school and...
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Guest Review: Tantaly Monroe Realistic Sex Doll
Note from Kate: I asked a cis male friend of mine to review this sex doll for me, because my partner already has one and doesn’t have enough room in their New York apartment for another one Here’s what...
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Review: Wowyes OYE-030 A7 Sucking Vibrator
I was skeptical about this vibrator. And then it made me come in under 5 minutes, and I was sold. The Wowyes OYE-030 A7 Sucking Vibrator has, without question, one of the worst names I’ve ever seen in...
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In Defense of Fantasizing During Sex
I remember the first time anyone said those magic words to me during sex. “Think about whatever you want.” He was a vanilla boy with a nonetheless toppy sensibility. His craving to evoke moans and...
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5 Reasons No One Should Spank Their Kids
Content note: This piece touches on nonconsensual spanking, other forms of physical abuse, sexual assault, trauma, suicidality, addiction, and human rights violations. 1. It doesn’t work. According...
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How I Track & Manage My Chronic Illness Symptoms in a Bullet Journal
I’ve long admired bullet journaling as a practice – like the art journaling and planner collage I did as a teen, it’s a way of making the everyday into something visually appealing and memorable. Life...
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10 Fun Ways to Celebrate Your Book Launch
My first book, 101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do, is launching in less than a month, and I have been frantically googling ways to celebrate it. I’m bad at celebrating my own successes. It is a chronic...
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Review: V for Vibes Bia Ejaculating Rabbit Vibrator
When I told my friend Bex I was going to review an ejaculating rabbit vibrator, he said, “I’ve heard all of those words, but never quite expected to hear them together in that order.” My thoughts...
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The Most Important (and Most Overlooked) Quality of Any Vibrator
I get emails literally every day from sex toy companies who want me to try their latest vibrator. They’ll wax poetic about its shape, its aesthetic, its strange and innovative features; they’ll claim...
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Traveling While Chronically Ill: My Must-Haves
gotta love those flattering airport portraits Later this week I have to get on a plane for the first time in a while, and I’m dreading it. Of course, I’m thrilled to be able to go see my spouse,...
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How to Have Sex in a Long-Distance Relationship
For a long time I maintained that I would never be in a long-distance relationship, because sex and other forms of physical affection mattered too much to me. However, then I fell in love with a...
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Behind the Seams: Kinky Things & Karaoke
August 7th, 2021 I wore this to the post office to ship a few copies of my book to various heroes of mine who’d agreed to blurb it (some of whom’s blurbs are on the book’s website now!). The whole...
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