25 Non-Boring Things to Do on Valentine’s Day
A month ago, I walked into an upscale sex shop in New York and saw that it was festooned in hearts, red lingerie, and Hershey Kisses. “OH GOD, NOT THIS AGAIN,” I shouted into the romantic void. How is...
View ArticleThe Fine Art of the Romantic Bruise Selfie
Content note: this post discusses, and contains photos of, bruising – only the happy, consensual kind, but bruising nonetheless. I encourage you to take care of yourself and skip this one if that’s...
View ArticleHow to Do Solo Foreplay
Many of my sex educator friends despise the term “foreplay.” The way it’s traditionally used, it refers to any sexual activities that precede intercourse, from kissing to dry-humping to oral sex. This...
View ArticleReviews: Fun Factory Stronic Real + Stronic G
The Stronic Real (purple) and Stronic G (blue). It’s very rare, as a sex toy reviewer, to be able to say that any product is truly unique. The sex toy industry has been around for long enough now that...
View ArticleLet’s Normalize Lube in Sexual Media!
It comes out of nowhere. I’m never expecting it. Why would I? A reference to lube? In a mainstream piece of media? Really? Are you sure? This time, it’s the character Lily on my favorite show of the...
View ArticleThe Sometimes-Blurry Line Between Content Creators and Fans
“Dating a porn star isn’t all roses / She leaves you home on a Saturday night / You can go crazy from thoughts and supposes / And lose the thin thread between what’s wrong and right” -The Weepies,...
View Article5 Kinky Ways to Use a Fleshlight
If I had my way, I would buy a Fleshlight for every dick-possessing person I ever date. I can’t definitively say that they’re the best strokers on the market, seeing as I don’t have a penis and...
View ArticleMonthly Faves: Silk Slips & Sex Ed
I spent most of February with my sweetheart in New York so I had a lot of comfy-cozy, dependably good sex this month. Here are some highlights… Sex toys • Fun Factory sent me their Stronic G pulsator...
View Article20 Questions About My First Shrooms Trip
I did shrooms (i.e. magic mushrooms) for the first time last month! Folks were very curious about it on Twitter and Instagram, so I thought I’d put together this little FAQ about my experience… Q. Why...
View ArticleCan Camming Be Sex?
Here’s a story I’m embarrassed to share. (Gosh, that should just be the tagline of this blog, shouldn’t it?) My first serious relationship was a monogamous one, but I still thought it would be fine to...
View ArticleThey Can’t Take That (Wand Vibrator) Away From Me
I’m having a minor mental breakdown because the Scrabble app is being discontinued. I know that doesn’t sound like it’s going to be relevant to sex toys and the other topics covered on this here blog,...
View ArticleQuarantine Challenge: Try a New Sex Thing
If you – like so many of us – have effectively locked yourself into your own home because of the current global pandemic situation, I commend you. Social distancing is a smart and life-saving measure,...
View Article15 Sex Toys For When Your Hands Hurt
My hands hurt most days lately. It’s one of the many manifestations of my as-yet-undiagnosed chronic pain disorder, and a particularly annoying one, given that I type words for a living. Fun! However,...
View ArticleSelf-Isolating and Bored? Here’s 15 Pieces of Media to Entertain You…
Dear friends: This is a hard time. I’m proud of you for wherever you’re at, whether you can’t stop crying in bed or you’re doing pretty okay actually (or something else entirely). Whatever reaction...
View ArticleReview: Clone-a-Willy
I take great pains to document my sex life, whether on my blog (as you can plainly see) or in my journals or even in texts to friends. It feels like an act of archiving experiences, cataloguing them,...
View ArticleMonthly Faves: Robots, Doctors, & Hearts
Wow, what a wild month. I hope you’re keeping well in this unprecedented time, my loves. In an attempt at recapturing normalcy, here’s a list of sexy and sexy-adjacent things I enjoyed this month… Sex...
View Article5 Ways to Explore Exhibitionism While Social-Distancing
As I’ve said before, one of the (seemingly very few) silver linings of the current global pandemic is that those of us privileged enough to be able to stay home will now have more time for sex,...
View Article5 Excellent Excuses to Dress Up In Your Own Home
I’m sure that, like me, you’ve been reading a lot of conflicting advice online about how to stay stuck at home without totally drowning in despair. Some people say, “Put on lipstick and real clothes...
View ArticleHow the Vacation Mindset Can Make You a Better Flirt
When you’re stuck at home, like so many of us are right now, it’s hard not to start planning what you’d like to do when you’re allowed to go out again. Or, more accurately, when you’re allowed to go...
View Article30 Fun Things to Do When You’re High
Happy 4/20, friends. I don’t know how many of you are, like me, lucky enough to have access to weed if you want it, but if you are, here are some things I have found are fun to do while baked as fuck....
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